No matter where you live, you'll always be faced with a unique set of obstacles when it comes to finding love. If you're from a small town, the complaint is that there aren't enough people to choose from. When it comes to living in a big city, the problem is the exact opposite. In a city like Toronto, there are so many places to meet people that the hunt to find 'the one' becomes less fun and more frustrating than it should be. Apps, such as Tinder and Bumble, provide us with endless dating options. Between social media and a city that is full of young singles looking to mingle, finding a respectable partner should be an easy task, right? The problem with having all these people to choose from is that nobody knows where to start and how to narrow them down. Could there be such thing as too many options? My answer is yes.
I was fortunate to find my boyfriend on a normal girls night out, just outside of the club we went to. Unfortunately, this is less common than it should be. In theory it makes sense to go out to a club and explore dating options. In reality, you are putting yourself into a dark, loud, crowded room full of drunk people. A few months ago I read Aziz Ansari's book, Modern Romance, and he pointed out something that should really be an obvious factor when it comes to meeting people at clubs. He was looking for someone to date, but the kind of person he wanted to date was not someone who was still out at 3 am partying. The point is, if you have an idea of the kind of person you want to date, you need to put yourself into settings where you might find them. I would barely call myself an expert when it comes to finding love, but I would consider myself someone who is comfortable dating and meeting people in a big city. I came to Toronto around six years ago, and since then have made a huge group of friends, gone on several successful dates, and have found an amazing boyfriend. Suffice to say, I know what to look for when it comes to finding a good person, and more importantly where to look.
