Happy-Go-Lucky

"You're always so happy!"
"You're never in a bad mood!"
"I don't think I've ever seen you without a smile on your face."

Time after time I have heard people from all the corners of my world express this to me. I have a natural happy-go-lucky personality, and over the years I have learned that this is something to be grateful for. Being so stress-free and positive, I even find it hard to relate to people who are consistently in bad moods or who are easily stressed. I like to think of myself as a pretty humble person, but if there's one thing I'll brag about, it's my attitude.

I remember it being brought to my attention and really sinking in for the first time when I was in high school. When I went away to boarding school in grade 10 (something I promise I'll elaborate on in a future post) I remember my house mom constantly expressing how she couldn't believe how immune I was to stress. Ever since then, I became aware of my behaviour and began to realize how lucky I was. It's hard to step back and assess why we are the way we are, but if I had to take a guess at it, I would say this: I find it a lot easier to lead a happy, stress-free life than I do to be angry and negative.

My philosophy in life is simple. If something doesn't make me happy, I eliminate it. Now, this is obviously easier said than done, but it's also not as hard as people make it out to be. Minimizing stress in your life can be done in a multitude of ways, and I've decided to share a few of mine with you. I was going through old albums the other day, and found some old pictures that brought a smile to my face. Since this post is all about how I've always been happy and positive, I thought that this would be the perfect post to share a few of them. So with the help of some of my embarrassing childhood photos, here are a few tips I like to apply to my own life when it comes to being stress-free and positive.

1. Turn your back on negative relationships

This one is huge. The last few years have been huge stepping stones in my life when it comes letting go of negative relationships. The hardest part about this one is when close friends, and people you never suspected, end up being the culprits of negativity in your life. It's pretty easy for me to brush of anything an acquaintance or somebody I'm not that close to says or does, but in my experience, it was close friends that were causing me so much frustration. At first it didn't occur to me that cutting them out was even an option, but when I sat down and was honest with myself about the pros and cons of these relationships, it shocked me that I had kept certain people in my life for as long as I did.

I'm not saying because a friend makes you angry or gets you stressed out every so often you should immediately end things. What I'm referring to is people who consistently impact your life in a negative way time and time again. It's not always easy to say goodbye, but if your friends are doing you more harm than good, then you have to ask yourself the question: are they even good friends? When I let go of people who were bringing grief and negativity into my life it was like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. In doing so, it made more time to spend with people who were actually good friends, positive influences and shared the same attitude and respect towards relationships as I did.

2. Stop caring what other people think

I know what you're thinking - doesn't being a blogger rely heavily on the opinions of others? Yes, it does, but it's up to you to you choose what to do with these opinions and how you let them affect you. In my personal experience, blogging has opened me up to a community of encouraging people with similar interests, and I haven't come across many haters or negativity at this point. Although I've always cared about people thinking I'm a good and nice person, I've never really cared about anything else. My opinion is that when you stay true to yourself, your beliefs, and your interests, you will attract people who feel the same way. Anyone else who feels otherwise simply isn't worth your time or worth stressing over.

3. Create a routine that makes you happy

In going from a public school, to a boarding school, to having total freedom as a student, I've learned that I work best with structure and routine. I used to be so against having a 9-5 office job, but it turns out that it was exactly what I needed in my life. Even when I worked full-time at a restaurant last year, the place I worked at was closed on weekends, so I always had those days off to look forward to no matter how tough the week was. Right now, I work two jobs that I genuinely enjoy most of the time - which is also a key factor in avoiding stress and unhappiness. It's not hard for me to get up in the morning, and I don't come home miserable after work. I work Monday to Thursday at my full time job, and I usually work 1-3 times a week at my second job. Since I always know what I'm doing in advance, it helps me mentally prepare for anything that might be frustrating or difficult.

4. Always make room for 'me time'

I'm definitely somebody who cannot survive without my 'me time'. Whether it's diving into a good book, binge watching a show on Netflix, sitting down at my keyboard or taking a long walk around the city, I need my alone time to decompose. My schedule has grown to be pretty jam packed, especially since I've started blogging, but I think time to relax is crucial to living a happy, stress-free life. Sometimes it seems hard to fit in time for yourself, but it's something you'll always be thankful for when you do. If I don't have time to myself over the course of a week, I will literally have a mental breakdown. Without this time, the millions of thoughts I have running around in my mind never stop. The wheels don't stop turning. Everybody needs a break, even the busiest of people. If you're feeling stressed and unhappy, ask yourself: when was the last time I dedicated an afternoon or night just to myself and my own wants and needs? Trust me, this time works miracles.


5. Be kind to others

They say that the best way to make your day better is to brighten someone else's. There's no greater feeling than putting a smile on someone else's face. The other day, my boyfriend's dad was saying that he loves to cook and bake for others because it makes him happy to be preparing something for them. If he were doing it for himself, the same amount of love and satisfaction wouldn't be there. There's nothing better than knowing you were the reason behind someone else's smile and happiness, and I think it's something we need to remind ourselves of. There's a Dalai Lama quote I love that says "Our prime purpose in life is to help others, and if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them." This is something I always try to remember. Whether it's giving someone a person to talk to, lending a helping hand or smile, or doing a random act of kindness for a total stranger, it will help both of you to have a happier day.

What it all comes down to is focusing on the things that make you happy and ignoring the things that don't. I'm aware that some negative things are unavoidable, but I try as hard as I can not to let those things bother me. In being appreciative for all the good I have in my life - especially the little things - it helps me forget about all the bad that is out there. Some people would call me naive, and though they are entitled to their opinion, I know that I am not. I choose to see the world through rose coloured glasses, and let me tell you, it's a beautiful life.

I'll leave you with one last photo, which is proof that we all look better with a smile on our face (and that I also have my bad days too.)

What are some of your tricks to staying positive and stress free? Comment below with all your answers!

With love,

10 comments :

  1. Omg...These pics are so adorable! And I agree a positive attitude is one of the biggest blessings - because you can make the best of any situation!

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    1. Thanks so much Ella! It definitely helps make life easier for sure. Looking on the bright side is definitely not something to take for granted.

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  2. This post is super adorable! I love all your photos :)
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  3. These photos are so cute, and I'm really liking these inspirational tips! Great post!

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  4. Awww what a lovely and positive post, I really enjoyed reading it hun xx

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    1. Thanks girl! I'm so glad you enjoyed it!

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  5. You are so lucky that you are immune to stress and can stay so positive. I definitely have a tendency to worry/stress out but I'm really working on it since when stress levels get high, I inevitably end up sick!

    xo, alison*elle

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    1. Totally understandable! I think as long as you make a conscious effort to stress less, you will definitely feel better. And remember that even the happiest, carefree people have bad days too!

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