Picture Perfect

In an age ruled by Facebook and Instagram, it has become so easy - and almost natural - to compare ourselves to others on a regular basis. At times, when I find myself caught in this mindset, there's a quote that pops into my head:

"The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel." 
-Steve Furtick

Most often, though something may appear to be picture perfect, it has rarely surfaced without a struggle. We all want to share the best parts of our lives, but are so hesitant when it comes to revealing our flaws. I know for myself, I never want to come across as negative, unattractive or unsuccessful, and for those reasons, there are aspects of my life I simply choose not to share on social media. It's OK to keep certain things to ourselves, but just because we don't share them, doesn't mean they don't occur.

When Sean and I went to shoot with photographers Jess Jiang and Elvira Glawatzki, even I didn't realize how much time and effort they had put into this styled shoot until we had arrived. If you look at the finished product, it appears so flawless, dreamy and Pinterest-esque, but in reality it took weeks of preparation and hard work to create.

In general, I've always found that the more effortless and easy something seems, the harder it actually is to do. Think about when you watch figure skaters glide so gracefully on the ice, or try to make your baking look as good as Martha Stewart's. Anyone who has ever tried to do a 'no makeup' makeup look, definitely knows what I'm talking about. Nothing is ever as easy as it seems.

With the rise of social media, this has really changed the way we view relationships. Nobody ever posts themselves fighting with their significant other. Nobody ever posts the things their partner does to bother them. Things that are supposed to take time, work, and dedication are now coming across as effortless. As somebody who is constantly talking to my friends, acquaintances, and even strangers about their relationships, I can confidently say that anyone who says that they have a flawless relationship is lying.

Given the nature of my blog, when I produce a post, it's essentially my job to create something that's aesthetically pleasing. Let's be honest: do you read my blog because you want to see a picture of me in a grungy cafe? Or pictures of Sean and I getting into a screaming match? I'm going to go ahead and guess that your answers would be no. Having said that, I feel like the second half of my job is to create an open and honest story about my life to go along with the pictures I share. I never want anyone to think that my life is easy, flawless, or perfect - because it isn't.

As much as I love to post romantic pictures and stories about Sean and I on my blog, that doesn't mean our relationship is perfect. As should be expected from two Middle Eastern Capricorns, we fight and have disagreements on a regular basis. Our life together is a rollercoaster of ups and downs, highs and lows. At the end of the day, that's exactly what I want, and I've always thought that you need to have those bad days in order to appreciate the good ones. Our fights give us the chance to work hard and come back better than ever. It is those tough times that will help us reach our goal of becoming a strong, power couple. Without those imperfections, I think we would be pretty boring.

Remember that a fairytale ending only comes after you've overcome obstacles. Even if it didn't, I personally wouldn't want a relationship that's so easily attainable. There's something special about choosing to work hard for what you have, whether it is in your professional or personal life.

What I think is important to realize, is that the good things in life don't usually come easily, and the best things in life are the ones worth fighting for. Remember that we don't always see the behind-the-scenes of everyone else's lives. If we did, I don't think we would be so hard on ourselves or envious of others. These special moments are things we should cherish, and be proud to share, which is why that's usually all we see from everyone else. For me, this blog is my highlight reel, and I hope it will inspire and motivate others to focus on creating their own.

Thank you so much to Jess Jiang from I Dream Studios and Elvira Glawatzki from Photography by Elvira for the hard work they put into this styled shoot. All photos from this post were taken by Jess Jiang, and I will be sharing Elvira's photos next week. Stay tuned for the second half of this wonderful day!

Wedding dress provided by Our Hopes and Dreams Bridal.

With love,

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